People Change

Have you ever heard of or used the phrase, "People don't change?" I am here to tell you that they do! People either change for the better or for the continuation of their pain-body. 

The person who is unhealed, continues to attach to their trauma. It becomes a foundation for the relationships they have built with other people and a main factor in how they relate to them. They begin to seek it out and destroy other people's peace because they thrive on the pain. They cannot help themselves even when other people try to establish boundaries. Boundaries are like kryptonite for the trauma addict. They try to bring others into their drama and chaos when they have no business doing so and may not even be aware that they are doing it. Having not healed, a person most certainly changes. Only, their change continues to add on to the abundance of their unhealed trauma. It changes the person to become even more toxic. 

The person who is on the path to healing, changes as well. That person acknowledges and assumes responsibility for their toxicity. They take inventory of their trauma and take ownership for what they have contributed to cause themselves and others pain. They work on understanding their triggers and how to successfully communicate without retaliation or involving others. They stop lying to themselves and to others. They learn how to ask for help. They learn to love themselves unconditionally and to be responsible for their own healing. 

Everyone has experienced trauma. But you have a choice to continue a cycle or to shut it down and actually understand why you do what you do. 

People change. They change all the time.